Hang on because I'm sure there will be other people who believe differently from me. The playing field is even now according to statistics. I wouldn't want him around the person. I still feel so guilty and I just don't know what to do. Food for thought, Michelle Langley. I am giving him space to think. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. . like, by not investing his heart too much via (wait for it) an optimum amount of kisses and cuddles, etc? For your information, I have only the *one* bottom and and it doesn't ever tend to leave tracks (- speak for yerself!) Reviewed by Gary Drevitch. "but the fact I work with this person and have to continue to work with him. " I don't know why I need that so much, but I do. How is that beneficial to him? You have a number of choices in terms of how to deal with what happened. It sounds like you are projecting your own fears onto him. The way it happened-not so good! I knew you liked him/her. Pointer much appreciated, though. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? 07/12/2015 22:05. For the last two years have read a lot about infidelity. stop any contact (outside of work) immediately. Your guilt is your punishment. We kissed for maybe 5 minutes, or maybe less, I don't know. Or does it mean something bigger in terms of my own relationship? I was the driver so I did not drink at all just the wto girls. Changing jobs or departments and without delay, those things that aren't rocket science, is definitely what I as a fractionally betrayed partner would call you putting your rueful money where your rueful mouth is - enough to help reassure permanently. I also could not fathom if you were ACTUALLY being serious or just having a laugh at her expense..alone in your tracky bottoms in your living room. lover. But we have spoken since about it a lot. I'm taking it day by day. Whoops. You're going through tests BY OTHERS to find out why you can't fall pregnant. Loyal Girl sorry to hear about your situation. I made that call today and will move from lates to early starting Monday 16th feb. 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Your guilt is your punishment. I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses. Thus it's what I *DID DO* - back in September when at an Indian restaurant with friends (I mentioned it on this forum as apropos to someone's thread) and some bloke tried to come onto me. SO if you shouldn't, then A) you should be able to tell him, and B) if he's the type to hit the roof over a kiss, he's a wee bit paranoid for his own good, and it wouldn't be *your* fault. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls video were all shocked at how gentle and 'non-aggressive' female kissers were, in comparison to guys. All night I chatted and joked with a group of maybe 10 people, mostly women. :(. Actually I really don't have any experience at all. I took the ride. I like the soft smooth touch of a woman and her sexy smell while iam kissing her with passion, if there is a romantic connection it's even better. Sums it up nicely. For me, to feel guilty about having sex with someone, while in a relationship with someone else, I must have remorse. :-( Feel free to start a thread if you need to vent it all out.). We are together 12 years altogether and although I had boyfriends before him, it was never serious, and he is the only man I've ever slept with. But you can control whether you nurture the crush or acknowledge it and move on. Oh no worries soulmate, yes we do miss you We'll talk tomorrow. I am heartbroken but told him I understand that I couldnt be with someone who doesnt trust me. If this is bothering you, then tell him. Try-it-on, cheating sleazebag makes pass at loyally-married woman; / Dyathinkhesaurus? I could go on about a lot of things here. I'm going to regret what I've done for the rest of my life. Then the accusations begin, which night go something like: Why on earth did you kiss _________? That's what it takes to have a Grade A romance that never dies. Now that you got drunk, you feel justified in kissing that person because you got drunk and couldnt help yourself. And, of course, cheating always tends to increase during a recession. What you're doing might FEEL easier, but that's you making the mistake too many others make, which is paying heed only to the *short* term, meanwhile risking leaving that bud to grow unseen into a thorn bush For what possible reason? It should prevent you from repeating your actions. I did say gateway to sex at first didn't I. female David bit Jordan. It was important to hear the argument for doing what is right. This. Me, I can't believe committing adultery isn't an actual crime yet. (works every time :-p) Lol Hi SoulMate! Drop it in CASUALLY, as part of general chit-chat, like it's no big thing (because if it's no biggie to you then that must mean it isn't and wasn't any threat to him), and in such a way as draws similarities with his own past incident. Of course there would have to be a lot of transparency in the marriage there after. It how you deal with it that makes the difference. After he gave me a drink we started kissing and I felt terrible.He then asked me to sleep with him. I then suddenyly realised what I was doing and burst into tears, telling him I could not do this to my boyfriend and then called a taxi and left. This recently happened to me. The Fora platform includes forum software by XenForo. You're denying him that right and being selfish. I am the same way. There is no earthly reason that your partner needs to know chapter and verse of every indiscretion you ever engaged in. I guess kissing another when married, with or without the other knowing about it is a sore subject. If your boyfriend still trusts you- then his faith in your fidelity moving forward should give you faith in yourself. I went to a party with friends last night and I kissed someone.. Can you tthan please explain this? Yesterday night we went out to drink. Spoiler alert: Not that different from kissing a girl, only they dont fancy them. I feel like my husband deserves so much better, but can't tell him because the guy isn't some stranger, he's a person I see 5 days a week, and I know if tables were turned and I was in my husbands position I would wonder what interactions were happening between the two in work everyday. In a way you are trading his peace of mind for yours, do you really think that you will accomplish anything by doing that? You mentioned foreplay as being the main gate. I really need your help.I have been dating this boy for the past two months. What if she sabotages the relationship through guilt? I always prefer to know if something is going on than find out about it later, or worse, never find out at all (the idea of this chills me). male In fact, you dont even have to tell your partner what you did because it was an innocent kiss. However, before you choose option 3, you need to talk to the person you kissed when you are sober again and make sure that the other person has strong feelings for you, too. response. Foxie: There was something missing in my marriage. SOULMATE is totally right and we all know it. The 2 Most Psychologically Incisive Films of 2022, The Surprising Role of Empathy in Traumatic Bonding. And has also started crying for no reason when things are going well between us. So, I reluctantly confessed to getting drunk and kissing my piano teacher. If it were me, I would contact her, & let her know that I didn't appreciate her actions. Certainly, that's what I myself meant and expected you to quote Bienne as more or less echoing. When you feel guilty for hurting someone you love, holding in those feelings makes it worse. Would they be as lenient? The doubt in your mind over his behaviour might actually be a doubt in your mind over yours. He went on to tell me that he kissed another woman and he had to tell me, he couldn't keep it a secret from me. When the night was over one of the women said we could go back to hers for drinks, and I was happy to go. Lead to or gateway to, I guess there's a difference. But, listen, I don't want to turn this thread into a general chit-chat one. But I don't see the need to borrow trouble by telling your boyfriend if you have learned your lesson and know you will never do . It really depends on the dynamics of your relationship though. Itachi, Lees theory can backfire, especially if the person really believes you are talking about someone else and then he/she finds out you are talking about someone that YOU did. The problem is soulmate if I mentioned some of the things that happened in another in another thread. By clicking 'Accept and continue' you consent to our use of cookies in accordance with your preferences which can be reviewed / updated at any time via our Privacy Policy. (I wonder why.) Talk to her about it and explain to her how it hurt you to see them kissing. in all the years we are together I have never ever done anything like this before, and I can say with confidence I will never allow myself to end up in any situation that could lead to anything even close to this again. Shes said thats it. ;-)), Back too Ya My Sistah from another mother!! Im a guy and i had sex with my guy bestfriend drunk. in my opinion I don't see why you would feel guilty you did nothing . NOT telling your partner is not protecting your partner and your marriage, it's self-protection against having to do the work called, Atonement, so you can ignore likeminded proponents whose choice from the excuses menu is that (yawn) telling your partner is a selfish act geared towards offloading some of the guilt when actually, perfectly logically, if the marriage is half theirs then so is the responsibility over the fact it degenerated to that point in the first place (excluding the choice-of-unilateral-action part, obviously)because that's how it works. He is the best person I have ever met. If the reaction isnt strong, then maybe its okay to confess. I was very drunk. I wish I told my wife, but she found out because in my browsing history I had searched should I tell my wife I kissed a girl when drunk. I didnt blame the alcohol because I knew I had feelings for my piano teacher, and I didnt want to pretend the feelings didnt exist. Finding it with someone else just accelerates the process. Try to channel the guilt into something good, into turning your back on temptation and having a good night out with your friends. It's not worth the headaches, nausea, acid reflux, stomach pain, or insomnia you may be experiencing. I'm going to keep my distance from my work colleague and I'm going to ensure nothing like this ever happens again. Yes it hurts.. Dont tell me now that youre in love with him.. Now then,you and hubby should do some summer travel. By clicking 'Submit' or otherwise submitting this form you agree to the, By entering this site you declare You kissed a guy - Possibly unforgivable. For the last few years we have been trying for a baby and are currently going through tests to try find out why it's not happening. reader, missbunbury+, writes (25 October 2005): A focus on you and your DH. As long as you are sincere about making this work, your punishment should be to bear this guilt. Since he felt there was an attraction with you two. If you. Perhaps this one is geared more toward the ladies, but I feel pretty confident in assuming that no matter the . Assistir Chelsea X Leeds - Ao Vivo Grtis HD sem travar, sem anncios. (and more like her as well, please, Bartender! SOULMATE NO URGE :-8 I'm sensing nose in the air LOL You must see The Grand Canyon, New York- Theater/Art so much raw talent, Jam, your wife holds the cards. We started kissing again and he took my T shirt off and I briefly started kissing his body. Sorry Soulmate I know I need to stop,but it's hard to. Something like that changes almost everything in a marriage. Oh there really isn't any disagreement actually. I feel like I like myself down and my husband down. I could list so many reasons why, but instead Ill just list a few. Hubby had a similar experience when we were in our first year - with his ex. SOULMATE: I accept the ASSuming Award. After all, if you're still berating yourself for what you did, it won't matter whether or not your partner has totally forgiven you. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!! Where were you hiding it - up your sleeve? What are you going to do, then? What would people say if she'd slept with someone else? Other way around. My girlfriend(Cintia), me and my best friends girlfriend (called Mercy). Be the adult here. I cannot tell you how much I love my boyfriend and how shocked I am about this. The straight women in the girls-french kiss-girls videowere all shocked at how gentle and non-aggressive female kissers were, in comparison to guys. She said this is how it starts. this guy only tried to kiss you so as far as you cheating on him there is no and your appropriate response was toback away and leave the guy standing. I didnt tell him. But we can get through it together if you are truley remoreseful. Don't feel guilty. Sorry, you two, I'm not ignoring you, just super-super-busy at the mo. I work in hospitality, so I can't change departments, but I can change my shift pattern. Unforeseeable consequence. Fear holds you back. The moment feelings are involved then youve cheated. Sadly, many people who have a crush on someone else purposely get drunk or get the other person drunk in order to find out if they have any chemistry with each other, and they temporarily forget about the fact that they are already in a relationship with another person. Are you sure you didnt have sex with him/her? But fine, then 'It's not what you do, it's the way that you do it': give him the truth *cleverly*. However for the next time please be careful and never do such a blunder because he's a gem and you should not lose him just for your stupid or foolish acts .i mean any sophisticated or a ONE MAN WOMAN (a proud title for me :) and hopflly for u too ) wont like to stress her relatn or leave a man whom she loves or take him in a position where he might leave ? If the reaction is strong, then maybe dont say anything. Lets get down to the basics here. But you sounded like you were willing to take it farther with him,and risk it all. If you think that straight guys are too macho to experiment with same-sex kissing, then yourewrong. And it's weird, but it's like I need the guy to tell me what I did was ok and I'm not a bad person. Oh, I'm sure he'd be able to forgive her, LOYAL GIRL. Relationships are about trust, first and foremost. One is your marriage, the other is a relationship with a married man with family. It didn't feel real. Or do I? I just knew it. As I left, the boy who I kissed came with me and I tried my best to shrug him off. Alcohol does not change that fact. My eyes were closed and my head was spinning. If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you its okay. Just my thoughts having been a victim of cheating. 507 views, 8 likes, 5 loves, 10 comments, 6 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Scrittori a domicilio: Mattia Insolia, Cieli in fiamme (Mondadori) con. Personally, if nothing happened apart from him buying drinks and giving you a ride home, then I wouldnt have told at all. I love him so much and feel totally ashamed at what happened over the weekend in what was a drunken moment at at a party.I got drunk and kissed another boy. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months and I feel so guilty. Houston, this team needs to identify then agree over what's causing it. Anyway, I just thought I'd mention it out of respect for that other time with that girl and to show you that, despite I'm not as quick thinking as you, especially when I'm blotto, I can still handle myself in these situations [grin]." So, you went to a party and everyone was drinking. If he forgave you, then it sounds like he accepted that it was a mistake, that you won't do it again and has moved on. A relationship with a man is supposed to be specifically platonic, says YouTuber David Godinez, while filmmaker James Rath says that men are told not to be physically intimate. If he is nervous at you looking at his messages and also refuses to tell you who she is, he is hiding quite alot. Sometimes it doesnt help to tell your partner everything. My piano instructor came over once a week, usually on a Saturday when my husband was home. Because I already had some unresolved feelings for this guy and I let him kiss me and used the fact that I was drunk as an excuse. What!! ;-)) But I'll let you off because that was a MacResponse whereas 'a lot to take in', i.e. See "The 5 Ingredients of an Effective Apology"; you probably miss at least two of them when you apologize. What you *can* have is the Biggest B*lls on the Block award. I tried to flag down a taxi but it ignored me and I even hid behind a wall at a garage while he took a pee. The last person you should be talking to about your feelings of guilt is your partner. :), Ah cawlled *you* 'sistah', dun't mean Ah iz wurn too, 'kayyy, shugah? And, he did little favors for me. You have been dating this guy for only two months and it's not serious yet. I've noticed that other threads here haven't lasted very long. Okay. Things have gone a fair way beyond ideal but you aren't a silly school girl after your first taste of wine. I believe that over time this would have happened with or without the wiskey. FoxieLadie is Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended! Bringing this up is only going to hurt your SO. 4. Just my opinion. Even though it took her a while to make that choice, she both never recognized her role and then made a series of bad choices after. Pre-kiss, the straight guys none of whom have ever kissed another man before are asked where society hasanyrules for interaction between heterosexual men. Stories about open relationships, swinging, polyamory and other alternative relationship structures. And now you - who finds trust difficult - have been tempted to do your OWN test (already commencedwhilst drunk), approached via the psychological end. So - no - if I feel like entertaining myself, I only have to think of my favourite joke about, what do you call a dinosaur with only one eye? I couldnt take it so I told him. We all should know by now that alcohol affects our judgment and that it can make us less inhibited and cause us to behave in ways in which we never would behave while sober. Saying that, however, I note you wrote: Unfortunately, even these last few asides are tantamount to a forum no-no called thread mutineering. Seriously. With or without the same seniority. ?We were doing well and I was afraid he would never forgive me. Hence - two aims for the price of one act: psychological fertility treatment + attention and affection. As far as crossed purposes,hmmmmmmmm not following you. Again - your choice. Period. True mistakes get owned and rectified. I noticed him kinda touching my hand a bit but I didn't pull away. My SO and I had been dating two years. And a stitch in time saves nine. Amazing how long this subject has carried on. What if they were married? However most people don't have a commitment that SOULMATE has with her husband that they will be 100% Honest with each other NO MATTER WHAT! Its hard to know what to say, especially if youre fuzzy about what happened. But, again, it's never what you do, it's the way that you do it, meaning I was careful to be sensitive in the telling. This is the decission you need to make do you want to risk all (career, home, kids as well as your DH) and be in a position you can pursue a relationship with this married man - who may well reject you for more than a fling. Just, why leave yourself open if you don't have to. One way to alleviate guilt is by taking action. I want to break down and cry. (Y)), Hey its really grtt to hear tht u really care n lot of emotion for ur hubbyv only come to kno abt our loyalty only when things like this happens.u kissed him thn u realised that u hv done mistake bcoz u really love ur hubby n dnt want to cheat him.but since commuting mistakes is a part of human nature n being human it happened but determined urself for not to continue or commit such mistake is the real proof of being loyal. I said to my husband, I have something to tell you, but I dont know how to say it.. If, on the other hand, you kissed someone whom you knew or someone your significant other believes youve always liked, and then you confess that you kissed him or her, your actions could have major consequences for your relationship Why? reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): A Wouldn't you? It happened two days ago. But I can't leave my job. i cried for days on and my bf couldnt figure out was . "what the hell where we at?" I kissed another guy when drunk but can't remember?! I wanted to go further with him, but I didnt nor did he push for anything more. "I'm not sure if you are trying to be helpful, or just entertaining yourself with your responses." The other day, I had a first with my partner Flo: I put my tongue in another mans mouth while he stood by only to observe. Guess what his response was? The guilt may be strong because you doubt yourself right now and were surprised by your actions. Weve probably all known silly drunks, mean drunks and people who simply couldnt hold their liquor and vomited all over the place. A number of years ago, while I was still married to my late husband, I befriended a guy who was an ace pianist. I kissed another girl while black out drunk, dont remember a thing. I guess what really bothers me a lot is when kids get involved.